I Am Not a Shit Mom!

A few weeks ago a dear friend of mine told me she was pregnant. I am super excited for her and happy that she is about to be a mom for the first time. As I logged off our Facebook chat I thought of all the things I wanted to tell her, advise and things that she may not yet have known about pregnancy. Then, a few days later an acquaintance of mine messaged me. "Let me fix your sleeping problems" she wrote. "My son does this this and this and I think you should do this this and this". As I read her message I started to get a bit pissed off. She made me feel like a shit mom for having a baby who sleeps at 9:30/ 10pm. She made me feel like a loser because her son (who is the same age as Baby E) takes 3 naps a day while my daughter takes 4. I mean who the f' asked you for help anyways? I closed the laptop, took a breath and reminded myself that Baby E is happy and healthy. And that I AM NOT A SHIT MOM! Every baby is different and this "acquaintance" has too much time on her hands and reads too many baby sleep books.

So this got me thinking about my friend who just told me she was expecting. I had all these things I wanted to tell her but now I've checked myself. I'm gonna keep that shit to myself until she asks. It's funny. I guess women like to share thier experiences (after all I am blogging about it, but you log on out of your own free will) and they like to give advise. But sometimes we really have to check it at the door. Not everyone whats to hear about our experiences, or what we did and how we did it. Especially when they are having a hard time with something....like sleep, the last thing we need is someone telling us how they did it better. If advise and information is being seeked, those who seek it will ask for it and go actively looking for it. I guess the last thing they need is someone telling them how it should be done, rather they want to do it themselves and learn from experiences.

So there it is. I am a non-shit mom who is keeping her mouth shut!...I'll just type it out on this blog :)